Happy (almost) new year, everyone! 2020 was a crazy one.
A lot of shit went down. First off my live-in boyfriend and I broke up, I dated a minor celebrity crush (for a minute), I moved in with two crazy (and awesome) roommates, I got fired from my programming job, I started writing full time, and I fell in love with an incredible man, who I’m now in an open relationship with.
Oh, and a global pandemic swept the Earth.
This year, I’ve had to a lot to write about. In 2020, I wrote over 130 articles.
Now it’s time to take stock. Which of those articles really mattered?
I put together several posts that I think will fill up your Sunday afternoon, or Thursday, or Wednesday (days don’t really matter anymore, do they?)
These choices are based on what’s ranking now on Google, what the people of Medium read and clapped for most, and a few of my personal favorites.
So here goes:
The #MeToo Series:
This isn’t the first year I’ve written about cases of sexual misconduct. But it is the first time I told the story below to anyone else.
And through the telling of the story about a sexual encounter I had that I never really wanted, I was able to process it in a way I hadn’t before.
This story below was my most-liked article of 2020 receiving over 2,000 claps. Check it out and then the other two, which give some important context to the issue.
I Had a Sexual Experience I Never Desired Because I Wanted to Be Pleasant
How the urge to keep the peace can make you do things you regret
I Could Reject an Unwanted Sexual Advance, but Only Because I Was Under the Perfect Conditions
6 reasons I could stand up for myself on one day but not on another
The Non-monogamy Series:
I’m in an open relationship. So I started a publication this year so I can talk specifically about that. Here are some highlights from the pub.
This article below was the most popular article of the series, receiving over 1,000 claps. I talk about why I think I’m naturally non-monogamous and how my past has driven me to make this choice.
4 Signs I Was Meant to Be Non-Monogamous Before I Knew What Non-Monogamy Was
There were signs well before I knew it was an option
Here I talk in sharp detail about my last (failed) open relationship. This article appears on the first page of Google when you search, “open relationship or break up”:
We Split Because I Wanted an Open Relationship
And I thought that meant our breakup was my fault
In the below articles, I take an honest look at the good and bad of my current open relationship. These are two of my favorites from this group of 20+ articles about non-monogamy this year.
My Partner Made Out With Another Woman, and It Shook Me
We had our first hit of polyamory; it turns out it’s a powerful drug.
The Date-Better Series:
My most-read article (but not the most well-liked) this year on Medium with over 5K reads was the below. Many negative comments accompany the positive. Take a look and decide for yourself:
5 *Attractive* Traits That Don’t Actually Make Him a Good Long-term Partner
How we women can avoid the Thomas Shelbys of the world
The blow article is on the first page of Google when you search, “he rejected me” (I know super happy stuff). Here I write about what it felt like to be shafted by my celebrity crush at the beginning of quarantine.
How to Deal with Rejection - N.Y. Chick | Sex and Love
Recently, I started dating a guy I really liked. At 31, I felt like I was 12 again crushing on the most popular boy in…
This one was about the same crush mentioned above. It’s on the first page when you search: “how to deal with a fuckboy” and similar queries on Google.
A Few Other 2020 Favorites:
These two were not curated on Medium, but did really well anyway, because well — they were good. Check them out.
+ My Most-Read Article of All Time (From 2018)
If you search “he won’t go down on me” on Google, you will find this article on the first page. The original version on Medium had over 100K views. Have a look and find the answer to your most burning question.
I hope you enjoy these articles. I’m feeling good about 2021 and my success as a writer.
Lastly, I want to say thanks to my friend Austin for providing me with original photos throughout the year. We did four shoots in total, and I think the results were great.
Thank you for reading and Happy New Year!