Take your top off and finally be as comfortable as he is. — I was at a public beach far out in Brooklyn with a guy I was seeing and some of his friends when four breasts came out. Two of his female friends took off their tops and ran into the water with only a bikini bottom on. …

She took the girlfriend spot — I pulled up to the restaurant on my bike and noticed my partner Flo’s golden brown hair through the window. He was the first to arrive. Sal, the guy I’d been seeing, arrived on his bike as I was locking mine up, so we walked into the restaurant together. We…

I wonder if they are sometimes used as a crutch — I had my first orgasm with a vibrator. At the tender age of 18, I was surprised my body could pull off such an act. All I had to do was rest this buzzing apparatus on my clit and within only a few minutes…voila! After all that time wondering about…

The poly floodgates are open. — This past summer, my partner Flo met Carina. And for the first time, one of us started seeing someone not just regularly but regularly and frequently. And this was hard for me. I was being asked for the first time to take into account the feelings and desires of another…

I contemplate how it happened. — “I don’t want a sexual relationship with you.” This is what I told Sal the first night we’d ever hung out just the two of us. See, we had discovered a few weeks before that we both wanted kids but didn’t have a partner who wanted them too. So we…

Everyone deserves a little peace and quiet. — My partner Flo recently asked me how I would feel about him visiting an old flame in the south of Germany. It would be part of a longer road trip he was going on to visit family and a few other friends. And in the past, even though I might…

I’ve been trying to be strong. — For a week now my partner Flo has been seeing another woman. Regularly and frequently for the first time since we started dating. And it’s been difficult for me to get used to it. I’ve asked him for support, I’ve played with a few dating apps, I’ve reminded myself that…

Seeking new relationship energy — I want that new relationship energy. Or what some might call the honeymoon phase. The butterflies, the feeling that all is right with the world and everything sparkles. But now that it’s winter, and people aren’t all out and about, spritely running around festivals and outdoor clubs and getting numbers…

I’d never thought about it this way before. — A friend from my co-working space recently invited me and a few others to go see Lettuce, a psychedelic rock band featuring some brass instruments. I love psychedelic-y music, and I love love love seeing brass instruments live. I thought, Maybe I should come with. And almost immediately after that…