Take your top off and finally be as comfortable as he is. — I was at a public beach far out in Brooklyn with a guy I was seeing and some of his friends when four breasts came out. Two of his female friends took off their tops and ran into the water with only a bikini bottom on. …

Jan 13–15 2023: Save the date. — Over the last five months, I’ve interviewed people from all over the world, like India, Australia, North Carolina, and Berlin. People with all different professions, like a data technician, a single-dad-by-choice, a former sex worker, and a school teacher. People who identify in all types of ways in terms of…

Not sure you noticed, but I haven’t been so active here in a while. — In the fall of 2020, I was a maniac on Medium, writing an average of four articles per week. I was convinced you could make a living on this platform because, well, I’d met a bunch of people who had. However, after a year of writing full-time on this platform…

It was a possibility I hadn’t considered — Last night, I was sitting on my couch, journaling, when an uncomfortable thought popped into my mind. Is he texting me less? I had the feeling that maybe my partner Flo was texting me less than he used to. …

It’s tempting as hell. — “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” — Oscar Wilde I’ve been struggling with my partner Flo seeing this woman he is really into. And last Thursday as we lay in bed, I was feeling angry, stressed — stressed about us, stressed about her. …

A case of unrequited desire — I lie down next to him in his bed. Now is the time. We haven’t seen each other in a week, and it’s been a few weeks since we made love. Dinner is finished — there’s nothing left to do. I summon his body to turn towards me, will his…

What I understood at a Berlin dance club — At Sysiphus, a Berlin open-air club, I recognized a striking dark-haired guy in the crowd with a nose ring. Someone I knew I’d at least seen before, but couldn’t place. So when I saw him moving across the dance floor, I intercepted him. “We met before right?” He explained that…

Where do you go from here? — I used to think that in order to be loved, in order to be in a “real” relationship, I needed to want to be with one person and only that one person for the rest of my life. That’s what all of us were taught in fact. If you were…

And, in the end, it hurt us both. — “You’re beautiful,” he said as he snapped a photo of me, the ancient city of Taormina now hundreds of feet below us. Gio, the manager of the hostel where I had arrived earlier that day, had offered to show me around on his scooter. …